Resurrection

Every now and then I browse back to my old blog mainly because of the bookmarks I have on it to click on my friend´s blogs to see what is new. Most of the time, I find out that...nothing much. Most of my friends stopped writing on their blogs around a year ago, undoubtedly because all of them have moved to Facebook. What a shame! Yes, I now know who woke up late and who left his work early thanks to the status changes, but where are the decently long elaborate articles that I used to enjoy so much?

Yes, I am a Facebook user too. Moreover, my husband Moshe is too. In fact he has been sick at home for more than 3 weeks with a stiff knee now. He can´t move and this gives him an excuse to type in every little detail from his or our life. While I have been a very frequent user of facebook too, now I wish to say - yes, but enough is enough. I will try to get back to normal blogging and continuous text. Let´s see if there are still any readers left.-)

A few pics

Moshe and I got married. :-)

Amélie Foltýnová

Olga, my sister-in-law, gave birth to her first daughter Amálka on Friday this week. Both are fine and healthy. Bellow are a couple of pics fromour today´s visit to the hospital.

Tomáš (my brother,) Olga (my sister-in-law) and Amálka


Amálka and I

The bride you always wanted not to be

I haven´t posted anything for almost half a year. I am at home with flu now, which means I need a time killer, so why not droppong a couple of lines again?

There is a lot of new. First of - I have a new job; or better to say I have a new possition in the same place. I now coordinate the Jewish program in our school. This is a very challenging experience - I have to learn a lot of new especially in communication with others. Most of the time I enjoy having to come up with new things and being creative. Sometimes I find it hard to get over mistakes I make. In general, however, I very much feel this is a change for the better.

I have a new baby-cat. Her name is Mushka and I brought her to my home a day after Yom Kipur. She is very sociable though incredibly wild. However, she is a great company for most of the time and I enjoy having such a fine flatmate.

Last but not least - I got engaged two weeks ago. G-d willing, Moshe and I should be getting married on Lag ba-omer on his family vineyard. During my „always a bridesmate never a bride" years I learnt that brides can be incredibly annoying in informing everybody about the progress of their wedding preparations and I wish to make a public vow and promise I will not become one of them. In fact, when we decided to get married, we sat down and within 3 days agreed on all the wedding arrangements. What do people make such a fuss about?

And the angels were laughing

Recently, the structure of my spendings have slightly changed - I have more or less finished the major investments into my flat and and it is the time to change the way I think about my money now. Today, I put on my make up and the most self-confident smile I could find and I set off to my bank to meet my financial consultant. I sat down at the counter, leaned rightwards on the chair and started to discuss my plans and prospects for the next couple of years. Lenka S., my financial advisor, who has known me for the last 8 years, very carefully listened to what I had to say. She asked me a couple of additional questions about my life and investment plans and expectations for the nearest future, made some further suggestions and then we closed the deal. As we were signing the contracts that sent my monies in different directions it downed on me what a chutzpah of me it was to plan what is going to happen to you in the future. When you make financial decisions of this kind, you decide to give up your money for some time and let it work, because you think you will not need it. You put the money into different places for different periods of time guessing: When will I have kids? Will I keep my job and vages? Will I get a promotion? What are the chances I will need some extra money to spend on unexpected expenses? These are things you surely try to plan but you can naturally never know what life will bring in the end. My today´s bank appointment reminded me of the old Jewish joke: How can you make G-d laugh? When you tell Him what your plans for the future are.

Well, well. I made my guess, let´s see what happens.

The end of school blue

The other day I overheard an interesting conversation between two ladies in the grocer´s: "You know what?" one of them said: "I am simply tired. I don´t want to deal with the kid anymore. I just wish the year was over already." It wasn´t hard to guess that the two of them were teachers. Most of my teacher friends are extremely tired these days. Most of them walk around like ghosts and speak softly. After the examination period, test and essay marking, final records and all the paperwork connected with it we all need a break. (And so do the kids.) Despite all the love I have for my job, I need the break too. There are two more days to go.

Ducks and halacha

On Friday, I saw an interesting reportage on the Czech news TV chanel ČT 24- it talked about a duck farmer in the village of Záluží. His ducks would in very rare cases leave their cot and walk on the village roads. He was affraid that cars that pass by would run them over. Therefore he put the following sign on a fence standing on the border of his farm and the road to warn the drivers about the danger of his wandering ducks. A couple of days later he was informed that he has to remove the sign under the thread of a fine of 300,000 CZK (18,750 US Dollars.) He was told that he abused the shape of red triangle with white inside, which is a registered traffic sign. The only animals that can appear in this sign in my country are a cow and a deerIf you want to warn drivers against any other kind of animal, you have to add a special warning to the already existing symbol - i.e. you post a sign of deer next to a forest and you add a sign "beware of wild pigs" next to it.

Putting any other animal into the red triangle sign is considered illegal. Therefore, the sign with dugs has to be dismantled by the end of the week. The office for trafic signs claims that a) such a new sign is confusing and as such it b) potentially undermines the whole system. Today we put a duck in the sign, what will we put tomorrow? "I ment no harm," said the bewildered farmer: "I just tried to protect my ducks."

I couldn´t help thinking how similar this case was to the problems we face in the development of halacha, the Jewish law. We face great anxiety ever time we think about allowing something new. The novelty might make sense and it very often greatly improves a particular segment of a Jewish life (more intensive involvment of women in public religious life, breaking the barriers between the Jewish and non-Jewish worlds, more sensitive approach to conversions etc). Very often, however, we ban the new improvement, because we are affraid that the novelty will be confusing in the context of the whole system. We fear that "it will look like something that is forbidden," that it will look like we are giving up on stringency in keeping the law or that it will eventually lead to other changes that will be deadly for the system.

Obviously, it isn´t easy to make changes. Changes mustn´t be made without careful consideration. I believe that sometimes, however, it makes more sense to make the change, which is so obviously good for the practical life than to furiously try to enforce the old version of the rule. After all, isn´t one of the main roles of the office for trafic signs (the rabbis respectively) to flexibly react to the changing needs of the people involved?

If we have the courage (and the common sense as well), we will hopefully dignify the life of numerous Jews and save the life of a couple of ducks. As a special bonus we will also prevent absurd situations like the one featured on the following picture (the sign says "beware of horses.")